Newsflash! You cannot control other people’s opinions of you. If you are a people pleaser, if you act kind, have good manners – people choose their opinion based on what their brain tells them. You can be the most positive, loving and caring person and that other person can still have a negative opinion about you. In other words, you can be the juiciest pear on the tree, but there will always be someone who doesn’t like pears.
When I had low self-esteem. I was terrified of what other people thought of me. I was terrified of being judged. I was terrified that if I expressed my opinion, someone might disagree with it. So, I hid. I hid from social situations, I hid my personality, I hid sharing my thoughts and ideas. In turn, all of that hiding stifled my growth.
Over time, I’ve met many entrepreneurs who continue with that mindset. I’ve met people who don’t pursue their passions because they’re afraid of what people might think. They’re afraid of people’s opinions. So they don’t go all out and they don’t create what they genuinely want to create and offer up to the world.
It breaks my heart to see people, especially young women hold themselves back because of perception of other people’s opinions, not even their actual opinions but the perception of their opinions.
You just want to be who you really are, but you’re so afraid of being who you really are because you’re afraid of being judged. But here’s what I figured out. They’re already judging you. People are going to look at you and judge you. Period. People are going to judge you because of the way you look, because of your weight, because of the color of your skin, because of the clothes you wear, because of the car you drive, the stories you tell, all of it.
So, if you let that go and accept the reality, you can start to become free. Ultimately, the best way to change someone’s opinion about you, if you really want to change it, is to completely ignore it.
As beloved author Byron Katie states, there are three types of business. Mine, yours and the universe. If an earthquake happens that is the universe’s business. If your neighbour has an ugly lawn, that’s their business. If you are angry at your neighbour because of their ugly lawn, than that’s your business. You do not have to apologize who you are to anyone. If you like yourself, that is all you need. What other people think about you is none of your business.
If anything in this post speaks to you, I encourage you to sit down, break out that journal and ask yourself a few questions. Most importantly, what is your opinion of yourself? How strongly are you willing to commit to it? And are you willing to have your own back when someone else is wrong about you?
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